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Alright so there is this guy that I have always sorta liked but have never really gotten to know him. He's family friends w/ my aunt so I hardly saw him. But now we are both transferring to the same school & I see him at orientation. He's a senior & i'm a sophomore. I think he remembers me but idk if he knows I remember him. He stares at me alot & eyes me up & down. Idk if he has a gf, But like him and idk what to do. Could he like me? Despite age diff.?
Anonymous
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You should add him on Facebook or something and get chatting to him there. Also Facebook would be a good way of finding out whether he’s got a girlfriend! Just be brave, try talking to him if you see him around some time :) Nothing will happen between you both if no one makes a move, stop waiting around and try to get to know him! Good luck!


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I like this boy and I don't know how to start a conversation, every time I try I start to think I'm annoying and overthink and get really sad and stuff.
Anonymous
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Look at the reasons as to why you think you’d be annoying him. Have there been previous occasions where you’ve started speaking and he hasn’t seem interested? Try this, start talking to him but don’t be too full on. Be laid back, relaxed and just casually chat to him about what he’s up to or something you have in common/find funny. If the convo has gone well, great! If not, don’t worry! Don’t overthink the situation. Some people take time to warm to you and want to talk, so it’s important to keep really patient and not overthink everything that was said. It can be annoying I know but just give it time (it may be quite a bit of time) to become clear. Hope this helps :)


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How do I figure out what, if anything, I'm good at in life and what I should do with myself as a career?
Anonymous
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I often used to wonder the same and it can be really worrying so I understand. Gradually over time things became clearer through experiences I had, people I met and places I went. Just get out there and get involved, be brave, experience new things and don’t care what people think! It will all become clear in the end :)


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hello. im 14 years old and ive been single for a year now and i really want a boyfriend. im really lonely and i think getting a boyfriend will make me happier. im into scene type boys and there arent any at my school. any help finding one? people say u can find them at the mall, concerts, and parks, but every time i go there theyre arent any. please help me :(
Anonymous
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Hi, thanks for your question. Try not to worry about this so much, you’re only 14 and there are more important things than boys, trust me! Just continue to keep an eye out for boys that you think you’d like when you’re out in town or whatever. And be patient, you’ll find somebody soon i’m sure :) maybe, you could try dating boys who aren’t your usual type too. You could be surprised about how much you like them! I hope this helped (:


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I want to do something creative and nice for the guy I like. I have done some things for him already but I am a very creative and sentimental person and I love making things for people. I have already sent romantic/flirty postcards & letters, sent him a package, wrote thoughts of him in a journal and gave it to him, made a book with written stories of the time we met, dates, etc including hand-drawn pictures. What else can I do? I have a lot of free time right now and I want to do something
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Well you say you’re creative so maybe you should try think of things he likes such as hobbies or interests and make something to do with that. Try and use you’re creativity to come up with ideas. Im not creative at all so i can’t help too much. You could also continue doing the things you’ve already done like pictures and letters but with different drawings and write about different things than last time. Hope this helped (:


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Me and my boyfriend are together a year and living together a month. We had a long distant relationship but I found a job and moved in with him and his family. Before this we had a 2 month split but when we got back I moved in straight away. In the beginning everything was great but then we started fighting a lot like every day. I used to smother him I suppose as I knew no one else and wanted him to be with me all the time. So we went away last week for 2 days but he never came near me (sex wise) in a week and i got upset and we had a row on friday and then he ended it he said we were going round in circles and he wasnt happy he just had enough and told me it was over. he went to work Monday and text me saying he is only saying this once that he loved me so much and it killed him seeing me so upset yesterday he said we need space for a few weeks but will still remain friends during that time and do stuff with me and stay at my new place, he said he would consider things again if things changed for good if we got on better and I got a life outside of him not to be depending on him he also said to get a place near him to live and that he didn't want me to hassle him about it and not to rush it but he will let me know when he's ready to start seeing me again. I have my own place now but when i was staying in his house since we split we slept in the same bed but he always cuddled me at night. he said thursday night that he would stay friday but we had a fight yesterday and he didnt. we had a fight yesterday as i was hassling him i suppose about him ignoring me and not talking to me as much, he said he wanted space and we just ended up having a row he got really angry and nasty and said jus f off and give him space like he asked and i asked him what the story was did he mean what he asid and he didnt answer me, i rang him loads and text loads as i was upset so i suppose i smothered him and i was at his house when he gothome. i asked him if he meant what he said in that txt and he wouldnt answer me and said i dont want to be with you so move on and have some self respect then i said so u lied and didnt mean what you said and he said just leave me alone i want space, he wouldnt answer my question. so now im confused what is the truth. his mam said he asked her last night why do i still call round the house when were not together and she said because she asked me to and he said she txt me 100 times today ijust want space. she said though that she thinks he did mean what he said and it will work out in the end. if i leave him alone for a while and stop texting and ringing do you think he will come back like he said if he truly loves me and cares about me?
Anonymous
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It does sound like you’re going through a rough spot in your realtaionship and it’s not uncommon at all. All couples experience hard times throughout their realtionship. I definitely think you need to test this realtionship and see if this guy does truely love you. So yes, i do think you should stop with texting and calling etc and give him the space he asked for for a while and let him come to you in a test to see if he does love you. If he doesn’t contact you, then you really do need to start thinking about moving on and finding the right guy for you. Hope this helped (:


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My ex and I broke up recently for the 4th time and decided to stay friends. He broke up with me. I'm really hurt and upset about it, I still like him a lot. I've asked several times and he claims he has no more feelings for me romantically (we just broke up a few days ago) and that he only likes be as a friend.

He received a letter from me from before we broke up and he said it was really awkward, BUT he told me I can send more whenever I feel like it because he likes getting mail from me and he appreciates it. I wrote several other letters I wasn't planning on sending but he convinced me to. He said he wants to read "my sincere feelings".

He also asked me to send him a diary thing I had been working on for him, because he really wants it. He also asked me if I could finish writing it first if I can. I asked him why he would want to read my post-breakup feelings for him and he said he doesn't know.

At some points he says he is unsure of his feelings for me, and other times he acts like he might still like me. But whenever I ask him he says he just likes me as a friend. And now, at this point, if I ask him if he cares or anything, he says no because if he says yes I will "question him" about it. But he said he does care and want to be friends. If he lies about caring for me would he lie about liking me? He also told me we could continue to talk openly about sex (we never had it, btw) if I wanted to, because he does it with his other friends.

What is going on here? Does he like me or not?
Anonymous
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Obviously, i don’t know much about this guy but you need to make sure you can trust him before sending him any more letters or anything because if he isn’t trustworthy then he may go and show them to other people. Perhaps now that you have broken up for the 4th time you need to think about moving on from him and realise that if the two of you were meant to be together, you would be together and wouldn’t have broken up so many times. Moving on might seem like a hard thing to do as you say you still have feelings for him but the best way to move on is to take time to do so while distancing yourself from him and talking less and less to him. I hope this helped :)


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Me and my boyfriend has been going out for a month. He usually does the initiative like calling, texting and asking to hang out first. But few days was our anni. And normally we're always with his friend and I thought he could've at least spent that day with me. But he dragged his friend a long with him and now he's barely talking to me.
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Perhaps he doesn’t feel totally comfortable around you and that’s why he brought his friend along. Talk to him about it and if he is immature about it and doesn’t give a clear answer then perhaps it’s time to throw in the towel and break up with him. However, if you do really like this guy and see a future with him then perhaps you should give this relationship time to work itself out. Hope this helped (:


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Should my cousin join the airforce? He really wants to join. He thinks it has great benefits, wants to follow in his brothers footsteps, and he wants to serve his country. So I just want to get your opinion. He's 13 and he's been thinking about joining for about a year. He has had times when he changed his mind, but he definitely has made up his mind and wants to join. He says he's not going to change his mind what so ever. Please give me your opinion. I want to know cause I don't want him doing something in the future that he's going to regret. I love my cousin and so far one of my older brothers joined the Marines and one of my cousins has joined the Air Force.
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Seeing as he is only 13, it seems that he is a bit young to be making that decision as he may have not thought it all through. It can be really dangerous. However, there are far less soldiers getting injured or being killed in this day compared to back in the world wars or in the cold war etc. It can be a rewarding career but i think people don’t understand how tough, dangerous and difficult it can be. I’m yet to meet a soldier who comes back from iraq/afghanistan who wants to go back, who likes it or who didn’t miss their friends and family while they’re away. Personally, i wouldn’t ever join the army, and i would try my best to talk my friend or family member out of joining. I hope this helped :)